As family caregivers, we can get locked into a rut and forget that we have a support system right in front of us…our family and friends. Often, they will let you know that they are there to help you, but a typical response is to say, “Thanks!” and never let them know when you need assistance. If you are caring for a loved one such as a parent or spouse, be aware of when you really need a little help. Saying yes to a friend’s offer may help you eliminate burn out. Here are a few suggestions:
- Make a list of tasks that can be delegated, such as errands, meals, picking up kids. If your neighbor is going to the dry cleaners, they can drop off your dry cleaning as well. Or, if your friend can take your daughter to dance class, that’s one less time commitment and you can take mom to the doctor.
- Utilize respite care opportunities. Have family member or friend visit mom at the hospital on Sunday afternoon so you can spend time with your kids, or better yet take some ‘me’ time.
- Don’t feel guilty for asking for help. Chances are you would do the same for the friend or family member if the situation was reversed.
- Say ‘Thank you’ by sending a quick note or making a phone call. Let the person know how much her help meant to you.
Although you may feel like it at times, you are not alone. Family caregiving can be a very emotional and energy draining situation. The importance of asking and accepting help is critical. Family and friends are significant members of your Care Team. The support they provide will help you tremendously.
Your CAREjourney Guides,
Staci Witten & Liz Applegate
Thursday the 25th, 2010 at 9 a.m.
